Saturday, May 29, 2010

Inquiring Minds Want to Know

Jen and Draz? Draz and Jen? I want to know what ELSE you talked about?!?!

The subject of weight loss and relationships is near and dear to all of our hearts. I think for many women, once they lose weight, and the world responds to them in a way they have never seen (or it's been a long time)- suddenly they realize that they are worth more and that they don't need to settle. At all. That's a soap box issue for me. Hooray.

Then there's Sandy's post, which I also adore. Her relationship is solid. Real. Not perfect, because that's not a reasonable expectation. But she can count on her husband 100% which is the entire point of marriage. Her relationship is how I want mine to be in 20 years. She's definitely an example to me, and I love her for it.

There are studies that show if a woman married when she was not obese, there's less of a chance of divorce after WLS, because she most likely did not "settle" when she made her vows. If a woman married when she was feeling poorly about herself (for whatever reason), and then loses weight, the likelihood of divorce spikes up as her self esteem goes up. Makes sense, and I don't think it's a bad thing. Being in a good relationship is good (yes, I know there are a few instances of women completely losing their mind after WLS, but there are obviously underlying issues there besides weight). Staying in a bad one? In my opinion, there's no honor in that, WLS or not. I wish every woman in the world had the opportunity to choose to be happy. In more ways than marriage and weight. But, that's another blog.

Sooooooooo how am I enjoying my skinny bitch self this weekend? Besides wishing I could be hanging out with BOOBS? A tie for first place? Going away with Mr. Wonderful!!! We're taking a little staycation tonight. Dinner, wine, nice hotel... huh, huh, huh (as he'd say). Which reminds me, I've got to find some time later this weekend to go online and find my Wonder Woman outfit. It's his only "now that you're skinny and would dare do it" request. I'd say he deserves it because he's been so supportive of my band and TT, but in all honesty, I think it sounds like a goooooood time. And I can't wait to see the look of shock on his face, because I will definitely surprise him. Ok, enough TMI. For now.

TTYL. XOXO.

8 comments:

  1. Thanks for the mention BB. I really wanted to get across that marriage isn't heaven on earth no matter what anyone says.

    And date nights are still soooo important, especially if the kids are grown and gone. It's a rediscovery. Had mine last night, although Wonder Woman wasn't involved. Hope you find your outfit, although I think you will do okey dokey all on your own. Have fun.

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  2. You're a good woman. Actually you are a wonder woman! :-)

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  3. Still going strong darl.. great to see. Enjoy your mini-mini break - after all you've been through you deserve it.

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  4. Fredricks of Hollywood sells the super woman costume!!

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  5. I hope you find your Wonder Woman outfit! That will be totally hot! ;)

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  6. LOL...I want pics of THAT!!! The outfit ...nothing else. Glad you are in a great place and doing so well

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  7. Skinny bitch rockin a wonder woman costume...oh yeah baby! Doesn't get any better!!

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  8. Heee - wouldn't you like to know my little sweet cheeks? It's your favorite subject. We love you! So then I assumed you liked the vlog?

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