Sometimes we get what we want by breaking the rules. Sometimes we get what we want by working with the system. I'm trying to get what I want by doing both.
I've dieted the old fashioned way... epoch failures. Two of the "rules" that I was a chronic breaker of were 1) I must feel guilty if I eat candy or chips or whatever and 2) I must eat breakfast and not eat at night.
I can follow those rules for a week or two, sometimes lots longer, but not forever. So, I've decided to work WITH myself instead of AGAINST myself.
What does that mean exactly? Well, it means that I'm not going to try to force myself to make "perfect" food choices. Don't get me wrong, I usually make healthy food choices. But, why would I beat myself up over wanting and indulging in an occasional, fully informed decision to eat whatever I choose?
And, I'm going to eat WHEN I want to. I've never been a big morning eater. I do eat a small amount in the morning, if and when I'm hungry. However, I have always enjoyed being an evening eater. I had a nutrition instructor in nursing school who believed that it was calories in and calories out, not WHEN you ate those calories. I know digestion and metabolism slow during the night, but enough to make a real difference? I'm doubting that. Just like muscle burns more calories than fat... an average of what 40 more calories a day? That's great, but not amazing.
Anyway, so those two "rules" don't work for me. I'm finished forcing myself into feeling guilty about food... what a waste of time for something that doesn't even work! And, I'm tired of playing the party line about when I naturally want to eat. I'm listening to my body this time, instead of to everyone else. Who "says" for me better than ME? It's mind boggling to me that I've spent so much of my life futally working against myself. It seems so simple that by working with myself, I'd take the best care of myself. Deceptively simple.